Thursday, 8 April 2010

Swingers in S.E. Asia

We are genuine group of Swingers in Sabah, Sarawak, Singapore and Brunei. This group is exclusively only for genuine couples & genuine single ladies. SINGLE GUY IS NOT ALLOW TO JOIN. We are very strict in recruiting members to ensure that all those who is interested to join is Genuine. We reserved the right to approve or reject couples.

To understand what is the meaning of Swinging with in depth detail, read the next post here.

Following are the Frequent Asked Questions (FAQ)

Who is qualify to join us?
Couples who are married or having a long term relationship. Single lady/female who wish to explore further into having 3some or group sex without commitment. Single lady/female that is bi-sexual.

Who is NOT qualified to join?Single guy/male not allows joining. Gays and Transvestites are also not allowed to join..

How do we get start?For couples, you must ensure that your partner especially the lady is ready and willing to swap with other couple for sex in the same room. Some guy brought their wife or girlfriend to the party without telling them the actual situation. When their partner only knew this in the last moment, she got freak out and left immediately or caught in an odd situation. Both of you must discuss over this matter before joining. You must not have jealousy as this does not involve feeling of love but rather a physical sexual excitement.

How your membership can be approved by owner of the group.Upon joining , you receive an email "Pending for Membership" from us. In the email, you are requiring to reply with your personal details from the question and include your mobile contact number together with decent picture of you and your partner.

Your picture will be kept discreet by the owner of the club. All approved members which consist of Professionals, Senior Management from large corporation; business people etc have submitted their picture.

During Party, what are the charges?
You only pay for sharing the cost of Hotel room rental which will be shared and usually will be @ S$30 to S$70 per couple depending on the number of couple turning up. That’s all you have to pay.

How often we meet for swinging party?
We usually meet at least once or twice a month if possible depending on the availability of members. Some members might organize it privately without the knowledge of the club where they only invite selected couples.

Occasionally, we may have a last minute party when there is a foreign swinging couple happen to visiting and will meet them at their hotel room. In this situation we will only invite selected members.

Where do we meet for swinging party?We will book a Hotel suite room either in the appropriate area. If the group is large, we will book a connection room to the suite room as well.

What race are these swingers?Swinging party will consist of all races which include chinese, malay, indian, eurasian, caucacian and other races.

What are the age groups?Age group of 20's to late 40's. The 20's are usually female. 30's till late 40's are male and female. We only have a handful of early 50's. Those who join swinging parties are usually from 20's till early 40's.

What do we need to bring?You need to bring your own condoms and towels. Some will bring adult toys. You are welcome to bring soft drinks, beers, liquor and even finger food if you want. There are people who will also bring a VCD or DVD player with some XXX movies too.

How many couples in a party?We will usually have a minimum of 4 couples. Our record is 12 couples per party. Usually the experience couple enjoys having more couples joining the party. The more the merrier. You would have more choices and more to watch as well.

Do we need to swap for first timer?
For first timer couple, you may not need to swap with others for sex if you are not ready but you have to be naked in the party. You can have sex with your own partner and watch others doing. From our past experience, majority of the first timer wasn't sure if they want to swap, but during the party, they got so excited and decided to go for it.

Are the couples or men in the party pushy?
One thing for sure, we could assure you are that in any occasion or party there is always a house rule. The house rule is final. When a lady says NO to a guy or couple who approach her for sex, it means NO. So if you are new in swinging and like to join party, don't worry at all as you are in safe hand.

How much do you need to pay?
We usually share cost for the rental of hotel room or hotel suite room depending on the size on the party. It would be approximately between S$30 to S$70 per couple depending on the number of couples turning up and the cost of the room.

What do we do during swinging party?We would start of with some light moment, such as chatting and getting to know each other. Then we will proceed with play card game in a group where loser will strip a piece of their cloth. This is to start it slow by removing piece by piece until everyone is totally naked. After that, couples will take turn to shower and at times we may have 2 couples shower together in the bathroom. After shower, we would use the living area of the suite room carpeted floor and cover with comforter from the bedroom's bed. All will be at the living room started with the ladies doing a blow job on their own partner. All are free to touch other partner's body, breast and pussy in a gentle way to start. The lady may touch another lady breast and suck them too. One thing leads to another and it will go all the way.

What happen if you bump into someone you knew?
This is our suggestion if you happen to meet someone you knew. They could be someone from your office, business dealings, client, relative etc. I have personally bump into a colleague who works with me. She was nervous but I kept my cool so we talk and mentioned that never thought that we could meet someone we knew. However, since both of you have the same interest and like to be discreet about it why not? Just tell each other "Welcome to the Club". And you become better friends after that. It was an akward moment at first, but in the end, we became friends and she and her partner are now regulars.

If you are interested, go please email to

Swinger Lifestyle Details

What is swinging?
Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships

In the 21st century it is more important than ever that swingers be entitled to choose their own lifestyle without persecution. The social system has been shaped by history, creating a changing set of expectations considered "normal". We have been influenced by changing social orders in an age in which the pressures to conform to former norms are being seriously questioned. The ideal of romantic marriage provides a model where the marital partners have exclusive sexual rights to each other and the duty to satisfy each other's physical and emotional needs. Many marital partners experience disenchantment when this perfect ideal fails.

Most people are critical in their perceptions of the world and wish desperately to enlarge the boundaries of their lives. Swingers are just such people. Swingers are members of a group that is actively seeking changes in stereotyped attitudes toward differences from outdated traditional values. Many have undergone positive changes in their own attitudes toward themselves, their partners and others. They have taken the opportunity to be free to choose to behave in ways, which were restrained from past conditioning. As adults we have not been free to choose an alternative lifestyle without being subjected to destructive responses from the majority of people in society, family, friends, neighbors etc.

Adults have the potential for creating various relationship forms where they can achieve mutual support, fulfillment of love and fellowship needs. It is important to evaluate this form of human relationship {swinging} by the caring nature of the responses they offer to others who engage in their lifestyle, rather than by the physical pleasures they take.

Respect for different relationship choices demands a great deal more internal character on the part of adults than most have. To overcome the pressures, set out by the moral fundamentalists and our own lying families, to conform to their traditional expectations is overwhelming. It is always easier to blend in by accepting cultural expectations than to "rock the boat" and be an individual with opposing beliefs. Unaware that their reactions to the unknown are anchored in their pre-programmed childhood, causes a terrible dilemma for the adult. Only through serious self-exploration can we find a mind set not influenced by others personal agendas. What do they say, "Only the strong survive"? Well in this case only the strong of mind prevail in marching through the pit of the status quo and locating the tranquility the swinging lifestyle offers and will continue to offer into the next millennium.

How do I meet a swinger?

Well the concept of swinging is still a taboo so people don't go around wearing t-shirt that says I am a swinger. But you will be surprised to know that your best friend, colleague or neighbor has been participating in the lifestyle.

One way to meet swingers is to go to swingers clubs.( once you become member, we will send you a list of clubs in your area) I am sort of amazed how many clubs are forming and how many members they claim every week. Most clubs require medicals and are couples only.

Also there are telepersonals. These are telephone ads with people desiring to meet you.
Usually these services are not up-to-date, are expensive and it take a lot of luck and effort to meet someone compatible.

And then you have internet swinging...such as this. Sure you would expect me to tell you that this is the best way to meet a swinger. But actually, its not... I am a fervent swinger myself and I have been surfing the net since '89 in the lifestyle. I have been duped, posted hundreds of ads, spent a lot of money on membership fees, wasted time answering ads from perverts. This site tend to answer or correct all that and make it easier for the newcomers in the lifestyle to join in

Is it Safe?
I wish I could tell you it is completely. But if it is any comfort to you, I could say that I have been heavily involved in the lifestyle and never had any problem nor did I hear anything out of the ordinary. But It is in order for me here to advise you to use your judgment and the littlest things are the most important:

never give detailed info in ads
exchange a lot of email before meeting
if the other party is pushing to meet sooner, forget him/her/them
only give info when you feel comfortable
ask for their telephone # or exchange #s at the same time.
talk on the phone before meeting
always tell a friend or parent about the relationship, where and when you will meet the persons and give them as many details as you can about the other party.
let the other party know (subtly of course) that your friend or parent is aware of your meeting.
always meet in a public place.

How do I convince my partner?

Of all the questions, this is the most asked and the most difficult from my stand point to answer since I did not have to go through the process of convincing my partner. But in any case, i think the answer will vary from one individual to another.

If you are married, I strongly suggest you try and involve your wife. Your swinging alone is not a good sign of a good marriage. Swinging is and should be much different than having an affair. It should be an enjoyable activity that a couple participate in and can in most case reinforce the liens. Let her know of your intents and you might be surprised.

One of the reason why a partner might refuse at all to participate in the lifestyle is if they feel as though they are not satisfying you and you are looking for something else. Make sure you show them that you are happy with what you have and that you only wish to expand your sexual life

What are my chances of meeting through your sevices?

You will be surprised how many people are looking for the same thing. Some just can't have enough of it, some are lonely, some are housewives, some (most) are couples looking to expand their sexual life. So it al depends what you are looking for. But most ads placed here are genuine, current and decent therefore you will not be wasting your time.

Couples' DOs and Don't

First the DOs

•Try new things, be open minded

•Communicate with each other

•Keep your partner’s comfort and security in mind at all time.

•Don’t rush: Don’t do something just because everyone else around you is doing it. This is a lifestyle and you have your whole life to enjoy it! One step at a time.

•Set limits and Stick to it

•Wear something sexy: this is especially important for us women to feel sexy. It boost our confidence and help us be more aggressive

•Be polite and considerate: even when rejecting someone, do it respectfully.

•Have a drink and mingle: try talking to people. Not necessarily people you would be interested in but even those you are not.

•Ask questions…

•Censor your images so if you are naked, your face is not showing or if your face is showing then make sure it’s a g-rated pic.*(see comment below).

•Read other people’s profile: don’t just look at the picture and rush to answer. Make sure you are compatible… this will save you time and translate to less rejections.

•Make sure you are clean.

•Always wear Condoms!

•Be honest and describe yourself objectively.

Now the DONTs
•Don’t do anything you and/or your mate are not comfortable with “just to fit in”

•If it does not feel right don’t do it.

•Be afraid of rejection and let that be a barrier from approaching others.

•Don’t be too aggressive or overpowering.

•Do it without condoms.

•Don’t get drunk, loud or pushy.

•Smoke around people who don’t.

•Don’t lie about yourself, your looks or your status.

•Post naked pictures with your face showing.

•No means no. Respect their boundaries and they will respect yours.